Everything from that life-changing moment becomes far more tedious. At that moment, the real work begins.

worried the recipient of the note would come out clutching it in their angry hands, waving at the sky and shouting “who dares to offend me?”

Short of a frozen kitchen sink, our water flowed. I was grateful, but also saddened with each new friend who announced a crisis.

I know from my own experience, however, that asking anyone to let go of their default coping mechanism is actually the tallest of orders.